This morning as I came to office with a colleague of mine as I left my vehicle in office last evening. As we approached our parking lot I just saw my vehicle was parked haphazardly and it was blocking the way to small parking area. At that time when I parked there were so many vehicles, so I just had to park like that. This morning for anyone looking at it, it looked like the person who parked was an idiot and lacked any sense at all.
I noticed it, got down from my friends vehicle and moved my vehicle a little so it was no more a disturbance to others. There was another person who was trying to park and he saw me doing this and said "Thank you", as he thought that it was someone else's vehicle and I am trying to help him. I accepted the thanks and just thought about the whole incident.
Now in the mind of the person who was trying to park the vehicle, I would like a good socially aware person, but at the sametime my colleague would have felt how badly I had parked my vehicle, as he knows it was my vehicle. The same way, many times we build perception about another person with one incident and we carry the same impression about that person, in this incident it was fine that this person had a positive opinion about me, but there may be many situations in our life where we could have misjudged some people based on an incident and built our perception about the individual based on that incident and would have taken lot of decisions based on that, which would have been wrong.
Typically in our industry, which involves a lot of team work and relationship being the most important factor for the success of the team, these kind of perception building will lead to lot of trouble and ultimately lead to the failure of our project. So lets give a thought before we create any perception about any individual around us, Many times what we see and what we hear may mislead us.
Monday, April 21, 2008
Love Story
Little did I know that a marketing call would have such an impact on my life, one fine day with Life and Business being as usual, I got a call on my extension informing that someone had come to meet me and was really not able to understand from the call as to who and why they have come to me.
Moving out of seat being such a difficult task, reluctantly started walking to the reception slowly and saw an average sized, dusky woman waiting in the reception and the first looks I saw, a lightning struck me and butterflies were flying in my stomach, just pooh poohed those feeling and had a talk with her, I still don’t remember anything about what she spoke, was just gazing at her, may be I should have probably sung ‘Partha Muthal Naale’.
Even though I was not interested in the product that she sold, I wanted to meet her, so I asked her to come after 2-3 days. Then on that day we were supposed to meet again, dressed myself well and groomed myself more, so I can look smart and handsome. All set for my second meeting, but ‘Man Proposes… Manager Disposes…’ My Manager asked me to go to clients place for some work, hesitantly left and did not inform her that I would not be in office, as I thought I can still come back.
Before I could come back to office, she was already there and she called me and I asked her to meet me somewhere near my clients place in a restaurant, she shot that idea down without a second thought. Bearing the shock, informed her that we would meet later, then I tried to sell her product to all my relatives and friends, but I ended up with disappointment and failing in all the attempts that I made to impress her.
There was a lull period and we lost touch and nearly after 4 months, I suddenly got a call from her and the first word I heard from her was ‘Hey Gunda, how are you doing?’ and that Gunda sounded like ‘I Love you’ for me. Then we started speaking to each other regularly and the duration of the call also slowly increased.
Then the relationship progressed and we met a couple of times and I started meeting her and was nurturing my love for her inside me. She was talking about everything and confided everything with me and which made me think that she considers being a good friend, so was hesitant to open p my love for her.
And days passed with me building my castle of love, but not disclosing the same for the fear of losing her. Then one day she called me and said she would want to meet and discuss with me about something and she asked me to meet her in Rams Milkyway, T.Nagar. I was very excited as I was hoping that the love bug would have bitten her also. As usual I was late for the meeting and she was waiting for me in one of the tables and I saw her from the stairs and she was looking like an angel in her brown printed saree. Then I went to the table where she was seated and greeted her and took the opposite seat and then ordered for an ice cream and around one hour we both were just smiling at each other without talking a word and then its was around 6:30 pm and it was also a Friday, she said it was getting late and she left.
That weekend I traveled to my native place and all 48 hours I was thinking of our meeting and did not sleep a minute and was waiting for my next meeting. Fortunately it did not take long, she called me again on Monday and said I wanted to meet you in Globus, T.Nagar and on that day I was early and she came there and we did not know what to do and then we just went up and down in the lift in Globus building like school kids and just enjoying each others company. Once we got down at the fourth floor and I said we will walk down the stairs and she agreed too. Then as we were descending on the stairs, I caught her hand and held on to it tightly and walked down with her. She did not resist the same, but I was not able to take it as an acceptance of my love. Then again the silence persisted and unwillingly we went back to our offices.
My mind was filled with thoughts of her and was also feeling melancholic as I was not able to disclose my love for her, Puzzled, I was sitting on the compound wall of my office and all of a sudden, my mobile rang and I saw it was her. With Butterflies flying in my stomach, I picked up the call and she straight away asked me “Are we in Love?”, not wanting to lose this opportunity immediately shouted “Yes, Yes, Yes”. Then the fairly tale continued and later when I disclosed that I fell in love with her on the very first day, she did not believe the same and still does not believe so.
Moving out of seat being such a difficult task, reluctantly started walking to the reception slowly and saw an average sized, dusky woman waiting in the reception and the first looks I saw, a lightning struck me and butterflies were flying in my stomach, just pooh poohed those feeling and had a talk with her, I still don’t remember anything about what she spoke, was just gazing at her, may be I should have probably sung ‘Partha Muthal Naale’.
Even though I was not interested in the product that she sold, I wanted to meet her, so I asked her to come after 2-3 days. Then on that day we were supposed to meet again, dressed myself well and groomed myself more, so I can look smart and handsome. All set for my second meeting, but ‘Man Proposes… Manager Disposes…’ My Manager asked me to go to clients place for some work, hesitantly left and did not inform her that I would not be in office, as I thought I can still come back.
Before I could come back to office, she was already there and she called me and I asked her to meet me somewhere near my clients place in a restaurant, she shot that idea down without a second thought. Bearing the shock, informed her that we would meet later, then I tried to sell her product to all my relatives and friends, but I ended up with disappointment and failing in all the attempts that I made to impress her.
There was a lull period and we lost touch and nearly after 4 months, I suddenly got a call from her and the first word I heard from her was ‘Hey Gunda, how are you doing?’ and that Gunda sounded like ‘I Love you’ for me. Then we started speaking to each other regularly and the duration of the call also slowly increased.
Then the relationship progressed and we met a couple of times and I started meeting her and was nurturing my love for her inside me. She was talking about everything and confided everything with me and which made me think that she considers being a good friend, so was hesitant to open p my love for her.
And days passed with me building my castle of love, but not disclosing the same for the fear of losing her. Then one day she called me and said she would want to meet and discuss with me about something and she asked me to meet her in Rams Milkyway, T.Nagar. I was very excited as I was hoping that the love bug would have bitten her also. As usual I was late for the meeting and she was waiting for me in one of the tables and I saw her from the stairs and she was looking like an angel in her brown printed saree. Then I went to the table where she was seated and greeted her and took the opposite seat and then ordered for an ice cream and around one hour we both were just smiling at each other without talking a word and then its was around 6:30 pm and it was also a Friday, she said it was getting late and she left.
That weekend I traveled to my native place and all 48 hours I was thinking of our meeting and did not sleep a minute and was waiting for my next meeting. Fortunately it did not take long, she called me again on Monday and said I wanted to meet you in Globus, T.Nagar and on that day I was early and she came there and we did not know what to do and then we just went up and down in the lift in Globus building like school kids and just enjoying each others company. Once we got down at the fourth floor and I said we will walk down the stairs and she agreed too. Then as we were descending on the stairs, I caught her hand and held on to it tightly and walked down with her. She did not resist the same, but I was not able to take it as an acceptance of my love. Then again the silence persisted and unwillingly we went back to our offices.
My mind was filled with thoughts of her and was also feeling melancholic as I was not able to disclose my love for her, Puzzled, I was sitting on the compound wall of my office and all of a sudden, my mobile rang and I saw it was her. With Butterflies flying in my stomach, I picked up the call and she straight away asked me “Are we in Love?”, not wanting to lose this opportunity immediately shouted “Yes, Yes, Yes”. Then the fairly tale continued and later when I disclosed that I fell in love with her on the very first day, she did not believe the same and still does not believe so.
Love has no conditions
I once had a friend who was very close to me. Once when we were sitting at a restaurant, she filled the palm of her hand with a little water and held it before me, and said this:You see this water carefully contained on my hand? It symbolizes Love.
As long as you keep your hand caringly open and allow it to remain there, it will always be there. However, if you attempt to close your fingers around it and try to posses it, it will spill through the first cracks it finds. This is the greatest mistake that people do when they meet love... They try to posses it, they demand, they expect... and just like the water spilling out of your hand, Love will retrieve from you. For love is meant to be free, you can not change its nature.If you have people you love, allow them to be free beings. Give and don't expect. Advise, but don't order. Ask, but never demand. It might sound simple, but it is a lesson that may take a lifetime to truly practice. It is the secret to true Love. To truly practice it, you must sincerely feel no expectations from those who you love, and yet an unconditional caring.
As long as you keep your hand caringly open and allow it to remain there, it will always be there. However, if you attempt to close your fingers around it and try to posses it, it will spill through the first cracks it finds. This is the greatest mistake that people do when they meet love... They try to posses it, they demand, they expect... and just like the water spilling out of your hand, Love will retrieve from you. For love is meant to be free, you can not change its nature.If you have people you love, allow them to be free beings. Give and don't expect. Advise, but don't order. Ask, but never demand. It might sound simple, but it is a lesson that may take a lifetime to truly practice. It is the secret to true Love. To truly practice it, you must sincerely feel no expectations from those who you love, and yet an unconditional caring.
Parents too have wishes....
This is about how my gesture of booking an air ticket for my father, his maiden flight, brought forth a rush of emotions and made me realize how much we all take for granted when it comes to our parents.
My parents left for our native place on Thursday and we went to the airport to see them off. In fact, my father, who retired from Indian Government service, had never traveled by air before, so I just took this opportunity to make his experience wonderful. In spite of being asked to book tickets by train, I got them tickets on Jet Airways.
The moment I handed over the tickets to him, he was surprised to see that I had booked them by air. The excitement was very apparent on his face, waiting for the time of travel. Just like a schoolboy, he was preparing himself on that day. We all went to the airport together, right from using the trolley for his luggage, the baggage check-in and asking for a window seat and waiting restlessly for the security check-in to happen. He was thoroughly enjoying himself and I, too, was overcome with joy watching him experience all these things.
As they were about to go in for the security check-in, he walked up to me with tears in his eyes and thanked me. He became very emotional and it was not as if I had done something great, but the fact that this meant a great deal to him.
When he said thanks, I told him there was no need to thank me. But later, thinking about the entire incident, I looked back at my life.
As a child, how many dreams did our parents have that came true? Without understanding the financial situation, we, as children, asked for cricket bats, dresses, toys, outings, etc. Irrespective of their affordability, they catered to all our needs. Did we ever think about the sacrifices they had to make to accommodate many of our wishes? Did we ever say thanks for all that they have done for us?Same way today, when it comes to our children, we always think that we should put them in a good school. Regardless of the amount of donation, we will ensure that we will have to give the child the best: theme parks, toys, etc. But we tend to forget that our parents have sacrificed a lot for our sake to see us happy, so it is our responsibility to ensure that their dreams are realized and what they failed to see when they were young, it is our responsibility to ensure that they experience all those and their life is complete.
Many times, when my parents asked me some questions, I have actually answered back without patience. When my daughter asks me something, I have been very polite in answering. Now I realize how they must have felt at those moments. Let us realize that old age is a second childhood and just as we take care of our children, the same attention and same care needs to be given to our parents and elders.
Rather than my dad saying thank you to me, I would want to say I'm sorry for making him wait so long for this small dream. I do realize how much he has sacrificed for my sake and I will do my best to give the best possible attention to all their wishes. Just because they are old does not mean that they have to give up everything and keep sacrificing for their grandchildren also. They have wishes, too.
My parents left for our native place on Thursday and we went to the airport to see them off. In fact, my father, who retired from Indian Government service, had never traveled by air before, so I just took this opportunity to make his experience wonderful. In spite of being asked to book tickets by train, I got them tickets on Jet Airways.
The moment I handed over the tickets to him, he was surprised to see that I had booked them by air. The excitement was very apparent on his face, waiting for the time of travel. Just like a schoolboy, he was preparing himself on that day. We all went to the airport together, right from using the trolley for his luggage, the baggage check-in and asking for a window seat and waiting restlessly for the security check-in to happen. He was thoroughly enjoying himself and I, too, was overcome with joy watching him experience all these things.
As they were about to go in for the security check-in, he walked up to me with tears in his eyes and thanked me. He became very emotional and it was not as if I had done something great, but the fact that this meant a great deal to him.
When he said thanks, I told him there was no need to thank me. But later, thinking about the entire incident, I looked back at my life.
As a child, how many dreams did our parents have that came true? Without understanding the financial situation, we, as children, asked for cricket bats, dresses, toys, outings, etc. Irrespective of their affordability, they catered to all our needs. Did we ever think about the sacrifices they had to make to accommodate many of our wishes? Did we ever say thanks for all that they have done for us?Same way today, when it comes to our children, we always think that we should put them in a good school. Regardless of the amount of donation, we will ensure that we will have to give the child the best: theme parks, toys, etc. But we tend to forget that our parents have sacrificed a lot for our sake to see us happy, so it is our responsibility to ensure that their dreams are realized and what they failed to see when they were young, it is our responsibility to ensure that they experience all those and their life is complete.
Many times, when my parents asked me some questions, I have actually answered back without patience. When my daughter asks me something, I have been very polite in answering. Now I realize how they must have felt at those moments. Let us realize that old age is a second childhood and just as we take care of our children, the same attention and same care needs to be given to our parents and elders.
Rather than my dad saying thank you to me, I would want to say I'm sorry for making him wait so long for this small dream. I do realize how much he has sacrificed for my sake and I will do my best to give the best possible attention to all their wishes. Just because they are old does not mean that they have to give up everything and keep sacrificing for their grandchildren also. They have wishes, too.
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